What do men find so irresistible? That is a question that countless women have been trying to figure out the answer to for centuries! Many have felt that desire to find out just how it is to be utterly desirable… especially when they see someone who seems to have cracked the code and have people flocking around her like bees to honey.
Indeed, a woman who has successfully mastered this art blooms into someone who is very attractive and way too tempting to be able to resist. Men find themselves naturally gravitating towards her, and wanting more of her.
So you may be wondering how to be irresistible to a man. How can you be the woman we described above? Well, the truth is that though it may seem like the answer is a big, incredibly complex thing, it’s actually simpler than you think. With the help of a few key ways on how to be irresistible to a man, you can unleash that inner goddess and captivate the attention of those around you!
Whether there’s a certain man you’ve been eyeing, or you’re open to dating and getting to know more people, or whatever it is that your heart may be desiring, feeling irresistible is an awesome confidence booster, and feeling irresistible can elevate you to a whole new level of crazy sexy! You’ll love how simple these tips are on how to be irresistible to a man, and in doing these, you’ll discover for yourself just how really and truly irresistible you can be!
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10 Tried And Tested Ways To Be Irresistible To A Man
These tips on how to be irresistible to a man will help you bloom into the fabulous woman you are destined to be!
1. One Word: Confidence
Ever find yourself wondering why sometimes there are women who have the looks, the face value, but somehow don’t make quite of an impact? And then there are women who enter a room and completely own it, and those around her can’t help but gravitate towards her? That is what you can raw appeal – a certain magnetism that helps someone make an impact and draw others towards her. And that is something that comes from one key thing: Confidence.
Confidence is attractive. Confidence is sexy. It gives you a natural magnetism that people can’t help but be drawn towards. It makes you more appealing in general, and goes a long way in catching a man’s attention. Sure, there are things about our physical appearance we may wish we can change. That’s human nature. But even if you’re not able to do anything to change how you look on the outside, cultivating an air of confidence, and learning to be able to boost that confidence, goes a long way. This is an instant upgrade, and it works every single time. You’ll be turning heads, and men will view you in a different way and find themselves desiring you because of the confident way you carry yourself. Confidence delivers results, and ups your appeal to a whole new level.
More importantly, having confidence helps you to know and value your self worth. You’ll appreciate yourself for the strong, fabulous woman that you are, and you’ll know what you deserve and won’t settle for anything less. You set higher standards for your heart, and honestly, that comes across to men as well. Because you know what you deserve, men will also know what you deserve, and the right man will work to be the man that deserves your heart.
2. See Eye to Eye
And by this we mean literally! Establishing eye contact is a great way to telegraph and illustrate your confidence, which as we said is something that’s very appealing and which men find irresistible. But not only that, eye contact is a sexy, intimate way to make a connection with someone.
They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and that is true. So looking into someone’s eyes and letting them stare into your own will let you be able to truly see each other, and truly connect with each other. Making eye contact instantly makes someone feel that connection towards you, and your gaze will definitely pull them in closer to you. It may sound so incredibly simple — but it definitely works. Eye contact is a great way to catch and keep the attention of your object of desire.
So when it comes to eye contact, do more of it. And make the most out of it, girl. Catch your man’s eye. Look right into his eyes. Hold his gaze. Smile. You can even give a little flirtatious eye flutter or wink! And when you’re conversing, make sure to stare prettily into his eyes the whole time you’re talking. These things will make him feel more connected to you, and raise his level of interest in that amazing woman who’s literally caught his eye.
3. Hey, Miss Independent!
Okay, meet exhibit A: Miss D. Miss D is single and ready to mingle. And when we say ready, we mean ready… at the drop of a hat! When a guy asks her out, she clears her schedule and makes herself available, whenever, wherever. Even right at that very moment if possible. She makes it so that she is free for the guy when he asks to go out with her or meet her, and she will be there, eager and willing to cater to his needs and his schedule.
Now let’s meet exhibit B: Miss ID. Miss ID is single, and yes, she’s also ready to mingle. But not at the expense of her full, vibrant life! Miss ID has got an awesome, fulfilling life that she loves and enjoys and makes the most out of. She’s got family, friends, interests, passions, goals. She’s got a busy schedule, and when a man asks her out, she’ll see when she’ll be free and won’t have any qualms about letting him know that he may have to wait till that time.
Finally, let’s look at one fact: Guys love the chase. That’s how it’s always been. Probably because of human nature and not being able to resist that feeling of competition and rising to a challenge, and because people believe that the more work and effort they place into something, the more valuable it is. If it comes easy, it will also be easy to discard or lose. If it’s harder to earn and achieve, then you’ll treasure it even more.
So who do you think men will find irresistible? And who do you want to be?
Be independent. Live your life to the fullest. Don’t let your world revolve around a guy — and don’t make him feel that he’s the center of your universe. And don’t just pretend to have a vibrant, busy life — live that way! Embrace everything that you have, and be your incredible, independent self. That is a woman who is happy and fulfilled. And that is a woman men won’t be able to resist… and who they’ll gladly fall in line and wait for.
4. Laughter is the Best… Aphrodisiac
They say laughter is the best medicine. And it is! There’s nothing like filling your day with laughter to instantly lift your mood and make everything better. With laughter, the world becomes a more joyful and more beautiful place. And guess what? It makes you more beautiful too!
Think about this: Has there ever been a time when you’ve encountered a guy who was okay but you weren’t really all that attracted to — but then you see him laughing, and his face lights up and you find yourself becoming more attracted to him? Or he said something or did something that made you laugh, and that made you find yourself more drawn to him?
It’s because laughter and humor are totally components of that magical thing called attraction! It’s been said many times that girls generally want a guy who is able to make them laugh, and that guys want girls who are able to laugh at the jokes they make. Being able to laugh in any relationship is a big plus. And having a laugh together, sharing that joy, is something that connects two people. So if that’s something he’s able to experience with you, then that will make you so much more hard to resist in his eyes.
Ladies, when he says something that you find funny, if you appreciate his wit and his humor, then don’t be stingy with the laughter! And hey, if you can make him smile and laugh too, all the better. He’ll like you all the more for it… and it’ll make the world a more joyful place with more laughter filling it.
5. Patience is a Virtue
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve heard it many times that patience is a virtue, and it is… but how would patience make me more irresistible to men? Hear us out.
We know that the dating scene can be unbelievably frustrating. Relationships can feel so elusive, and the waiting, the loneliness, the feeling of time passing you by, that can all be so totally difficult to bear. Especially if you’ve been in so many failed relationships, or you’ve never been in a real relationship, or you feel you are getting older, or everyone seems to be happy and all coupled up except you. That can turn you into someone who may be feeling too much pressure and in turn will make the men she encounters feel pressure too. And that is a recipe for disaster.
When you become like that, when you let yourself be consumed by all that pressure, then you may not realize it but you become the kind of woman who also radiates that pressure onto the guys she encounter, which will then make them feel like they’re in a situation they don’t want to be in. And if you’re not careful, this can translate to desperation, which guys will tend to run away from, not towards.
Have patience. Love, as they say, takes time. You can’t hurry it. Nor should you want to. It’s an amazing thing you want to be able to experience in all its glory, as it blooms and grows. Once you let yourself be that woman who appreciates that love and relationships should be given time to flourish and stops hurrying everything, then you become the woman who men will actually want to nurture a budding romance with!
6. Scent is Power
So you want to be more attractive physically to men. You think, how can I make myself more physically attractive? You place careful thought and attention to what you’re going to wear, and curate a wardrobe that you feel ups your appeal. You scour makeup brands and find the perfect shades of lipstick, blush, and so on that you can use to enhance your natural, beautiful features. But ladies, we’re here to remind you of this one important thing: Scent is power.
That’s right. Don’t overlook scent. Sometimes, you may find yourself giving so much focus and energy into finding the perfect outfit and doing your makeup just right that the scent you wear becomes an afterthought. But it shouldn’t be! Because guess what — scent is actually among the biggest, strongest components when it comes to attraction, however subtle.
Scents can create certain responses when it comes to appeal. Being able to find that right scent that mixes just right with your pheromones will give you a love potion for the books! When you find that scent, YOUR scent, the one that your body reacts so well to and makes you smell so good, then you’ll also smell so irresistible to men. Your scent will pull them in towards you, and they won’t be able to get enough!
7. Positivity is Key
Have you heard of the term “Debbie Downer”? It’s something they use to call someone who seems to always radiate negativity. Someone who’s always sad and angry about everything and can’t appreciate the good things she has going for her and just keeps on complaining or being ungrateful. If you’ve encountered someone like that, did you find yourself wanting to be around that person all the time? And if you haven’t but going by the description, does that person sound like someone you’ll love being with?
People will naturally gravitate towards those who radiate a happy, positive energy. We are drawn to individuals who exude light and joy. So a great way to be more irresistible is by becoming a more positive person. Be positive! If that’s naturally your nature, then let it shine all the more. If you’re not naturally a positive person, then try to work on yourself. Change your mindset, little by little. Cultivate a happier attitude. Let go of the anger and negativity that’s been weighing you down. Free yourself of the frowns that have been turning your smiles upside down.
Becoming a woman who radiates positivity will turn you into a woman who exudes an irresistible, attractive aura. That’s something men can’t help but want more of. And more importantly, it will help you become a happier and healthier person too!
8. Speak your Mind
Sometimes, when we’re around people we want to attract and they talk about certain things or voice certain opinions and we find ourselves with an opposing view, the tendency is to squash our opinion and just “go with the flow”. You know how that can be. There are times when you’ve probably found yourself staying silent on a topic and not sharing your thoughts because you want the person you’re conversing with to like you and you feel that by sharing your opinion, they might get an unfavorable opinion of you.
Ladies, that stops now. Never, ever be afraid to speak up and speak your mind. Never hide or be ashamed by your views and beliefs. That’s who you are. That’s from your beautiful mind and heart. And real mean actually really dig it when women voice out their opinions and their thoughts! Yes, even if it differs from their own.
It shows them that in front of them is a woman who is smart, articulated, knows who she is and absolutely owns it. She values her beliefs and her opinions and is secure in herself. And that is nothing short of absolutely irresistible and so darn sexy.
9. Mystery is Mesmerizing
It’s an undeniable truth that opening up is important when it comes to establishing connections and relationships. We have to be open and to let others get to know us. That ultimately is what will draw them closer to us and make us more attractive in their eyes, when they see who we truly are.
But – and here’s a big one! – you also have to remember to open up little by little, not do a huge info dump all at once for him to take in, stat! Especially in the early stages, when you’ve just started connecting and getting to know each other, it’s advisable to maybe share bit by bit. Let him in, but always leave him hanging. Make him crave for more. Make him want to know more about you — and look forward to it.
Make sure there’s some mystery in there. Let him feel that you are peeling off the layers, slowly, tantalizingly. It will drive him crazy in the best possible way, that perfect balance. Unwrapping you as a person little by little is something he won’t be able to resist.
10. You are Beautiful. Your Body is Beautiful. Love it
It’s easy to say “Love your body” but we all know that actually being able to is an entirely different thing altogether. Sometimes, the things we see in magazines or on social media or on our screens make us feel we’re supposed to look a certain way, and we beat ourselves up over the fact that we don’t. Sometimes we’re entirely too hard on ourselves. Sometimes we don’t see just how beautiful we are.
Please believe us when we say that you are beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Beauty is not defined by one single set of standards. Sexiness is subjective. And men can appreciate beauty and sexiness in all forms!
One of the best ways you can be irresistible to a man is to appreciate what you have. Love yourself and your body, really and truly. Own what you have, be proud of who you are. From there, everything else will follow. You will truly be the amazing woman you are meant to be, and he won’t be able to get enough of you!
No matter where you grew up or what you’re doing for a living or how you look, believe us when we say that the power to become absolutely irresistible to a man is all in your hands. And it all starts with removing the focus from what it is you think men want and shift all your energies to letting your inner beauty and your fabulous self shine through. You are all you need to be, in all your incredible, amazing glory. And he won’t be able to resist.
Hey there, Martha here, a full-time mom of two, currently trying to bring a small impact in everyone’s life whom I can reach through The Queen Momma. I usually write on topics related to parenting, pregnancy and motherhood. Having gone through a few rocky relationships myself, I consider myself somewhat of an “expert” on topics related to dating and relationships.
I formerly worked at Special Needs Network Inc and BrightStar Care of Beverly Hills as a head manager. I have a passion for assisting organizations and individuals in achieving their objectives and have had the opportunity to do so throughout my professional career. At present, writing for The Queen Momma is a great addition to my professional career.