So you’ve been seeing him. Gone on a few dates with him or maybe even more. Maybe you’ve spent a lot of time with him, and now you’re apart for a bit. Maybe things have fizzled out a little but you know you like him a lot. One thing’s clear: You miss him.
And you can’t help but wonder (and wonder and wonder): Does he miss you too?
Have you ever found yourself in this situation? Obsessing over whether or not your guy misses you as much as you miss him? It can be quite the challenge trying to figure out how he’s feeling. Guys are pretty well known to keep things close to their chest. Most men tend to lean towards the side of not being expressive about their feelings. More often than not, they won’t just verbalize how they feel. They’ll hesitate to lay it all out in the open. Which can drive you even more up the wall!
But don’t fret! No matter how they try to mask their emotions, there are always signs he misses you. Once you’re aware of the telltale signs he misses you, you’ll be able to read his actions like a book — and these will be able to give your mind and your heart some of the answers you are looking for!
15 Clear Signs He Misses You
Here, we’ve listed down some of the biggest signs he misses you. The key is in remembering that actions will often tell you what he himself may refuse to admit (for now, at least!).
1. He texts you constantly and frequently.
As far as signs go, this is probably one of the clearest and biggest! When the two of you are not together, and he constantly texts you, then you are definitely on his mind. This is especially true if your guy isn’t the type who texts a whole bunch during the day in general — but when you’re apart, he sends you text after text after text!
A person who misses you will want to find ways to stay connected to you even from miles away. He wants to know what’s happening in your life and still somehow be involved, even if he isn’t physically at your side. He’ll send you messages and even funny quotes or motivational words, or even the simplest “Have a great day!” or “Don’t forget to eat dinner!”. To you, they may just be simple little texts, but for a guy, it’s a telltale sign that he’s missing you a lot.
2. He calls and calls and calls (even when he normally hates talking on the phone!).
This is another clear sign that he’s missing you. Guys will often call when they’re missing someone. In today’s smartphone age, you can give someone a call when you’re missing them and you want to feel closer to them somehow. Guys tend to do this when they’re thinking about you and they want to hear your voice and talk to you. He’ll take any chance to ring you up and listen to you talk and engage with you. And if he’s the type who normally doesn’t like talking on the phone and yet calls you? Girl, he misses you bad.
Of course, listen to what he’s saying too. If he’s calling “just to say hi” or to ask about your day or to chat with you, then that’s a good sign. If he called just to give you important, need to know stuff, then it may have just been a case of him just not wanting to text the info — then again, he may have used this info as an opportunity to ring you up too!
3. He’s very social with you on social media.
In these modern times, the internet has become a part of our lives. And social media, in particular, has also become a good indicator of missing someone! If you and your guy are both on social media, and you find him liking your posts – and even write a comment or two or ten! – then that means he’s been checking out your socials! He’s clearly interested in you and in knowing all about you. And he’s “casually” letting you know that he’s paying attention.
Even if he doesn’t directly leave comments or like post after post after post, if you notice him sharing stuff on your wall or tagging you in funny memes, then that shows that he’s thinking about you and so many things remind him of you — because he misses you!
4. He pops up after you pop up online.
So you may have not heard from him much all day. But then, once you go online and your status becomes active on Facebook or you’ve posted on Insta or retweeted something, boom, a message from him suddenly pops up! Yep, he’s missing you. Clearly.
It may not be as “obvious” as some other signs, but this one is a telltale subtle sign that your guy’s longing for you. He’s paying attention to your socials and immediately picks up on your active status, and he takes it as an opening to reach out and engage with you.
5. He’ll talk about random stuff to make an effort to keep the convo going.
If he’s making an effort to talk to you and keep talking to you, then it’s a sure sign that he misses you. If you’ve talked about whatever topic you talked about and then instead of ending the conversation, he then moves on to another topic or even one random thing after another, then he just really likes talking to you and doesn’t want it to stop.
It doesn’t matter what you’re talking about — as long as he’s chatting or texting or speaking with you, and he’s able to keep on interacting with you, he’s happy. It’s not enough for him to just have a short exchange. He wants to stay connected to you as long as possible in that moment.
6. He may ask you to send him photos — or even suggests video chatting.
Okay, take your mind out of the gutter! Photos and video chats can be associated with non-PG reasons (which is another topic for another day), but what we’re talking about here are just simple, seemingly random requests. It may be for a photo of you where you are (like, in a coffee shop, so he can “check out the location”), or when you’ve just woken up (so he can “see your uncombed hair”. Any excuse for him to be able to see your face, he’ll grab it.
Same goes for video calls. If it’s something he suggests, then he’s really missing you. He may say it’s just because he doesn’t like phone calls and would rather video call or some lame excuse like that, but in reality, he just wants to catch a glimpse of your face and feel he’s with you, even virtually! He just wants to stare at the face he misses more than anything – yours.
7. He’ll do small, unexpected things for you.
It’s not always about the hugest grandest of gestures. Many times, it’s about the little things. If he suddenly drops by your house “because he was in the area”, or buys you that coffee tumbler you mentioned you liked, or even just find that quote you’ve been searching for a while now, those small surprises say big things about how he feels.
8. He talks about plans for when you’ll see each other — and makes an effort to see you.
A surefire indicator that your guy misses you is this: He will talk about what you two will do when you see each other again! He’ll make plans for the two of you. He’ll ask what you’d like to do, where you’d like to go, what you want to eat… He just basically wants to spend more time with you and will plan things out — visualize and make it happen, so to speak!
If he brings it up and makes conversation about the things you can do together, then he’s thinking about the two of you being together again, which shows that he really and truly misses you and wants to be with you. And he will find ways for this to become a reality!
9. He gets jealous!
When the tiny green monster rears its head, you’ll know your guy is totally missing you. It’s not about being jealous about another guy in particular per se (although that can also be true — a guy who misses you and wants to be with you can get a tad possessive, and as long as its healthy and not unreasonable jealousy that leads to him fighting with you or anyone else, that’s okay). It’s him getting jealous that other people get to be in your presence and spend time with you. Because in his heart, that’s all he wants to be doing right now: Be with you.
10. He sends you random messages.
Do you find yourself receiving super random texts or chat messages seemingly out of the blue from your guy? That’s another telltale sign that he is missing you, girl! It’s his way of letting you know he’s thinking of you, and also trying to get you to think of him… It’s a cue that he wants to connect, but he maybe doesn’t want to come off as too strong or he doesn’t know how to begin striking up a convo.
Also, if you get messages from him while he’s away on vacation or out of town or on a holiday, that shows you that even far away, you’re never far from his thoughts. He’s taken you with him in his mind and in his heart, wherever he may be.
11. His words and actions are all about you when you’re not around.
This one’s pretty easy. If he constantly talks about you or finds ways to bring you up when he’s with his friends and family when you’re not around, it’s clear he adores you and he’s always thinking about you and he completely misses you. He may not even realize he’s doing this — you’re just so deeply in his thoughts that he can’t help but weave you into the conversation.
He may also “casually” ask common friends about you, about how you are and what you’re up to. That means he’s very much interested. So if you hear from others that he’s been asking about you, or if his friends drop hints that he talks about you a lot, then there’s no doubt that he’s longing for you.
12. He always seems to be around the places you frequent.
So you and your guy haven’t really made concrete plans. You may not have even heard from him all that much lately. But somehow, you always see him around! He’s there a lot in the place you often go to. Coincidence? More like strategic thinking! He may be too shy to ask you out again, or trying not to appear too pushy or head over heels (though he clearly is or is well on his way!). Guys who are afraid of rejection often pull back a little. But because they miss you and they like you a lot, they will still find ways to see you and be around you.
They may not admit it, but they’re just really hoping you’ll smile at them and start talking to them!
13. He drunk texts or even drunk dials you.
There is a saying that goes “In vino veritas”, which translates to “In wine, there is truth.” Simply put, when a person is inebriated, their inhibitions are low, and they tend to show their true feelings. So if he’s out with friends or getting his drink on, and he texts you while he’s under the influence of alcohol, then he’s showing how he really feels: He misses you, period.
Sometimes, instead of texting or in addition to texting, he’ll even drunk dial you! Maybe he’s been wanting to call you but hasn’t been able to find the courage, or maybe his thoughts and fears have been making him hesitate, or maybe he’s been struggling to find the right words to sa what he wants to say. When he drinks, that can all go away, and you may find yourself on the receiving end of a drunk call that maaaay lead to some pretty interesting convos!
14. Three words: How are you?
Girl, it may seem like nothing, but a guy taking the time to find out how you’re doing is majorly jonesing for you. These three words may seem innocent, but they actually really let you know that a guy cares about you and misses you and has you on their mind: How are you?
If your guy makes an effort to genuinely check in on you and ask about you, then he’s genuinely interested in you and wants to be with you. He misses you and wants to spend more time with you!
15. When he sees you, he’s happy. Just really happy.
He may not say it, he may even hold back from showing it when you’re apart, but here’s a truth bomb: If he becomes happy when he catches a glimpse of you or when he sees you or when he’s around you, then he completely and totally missed you. True story.
Sure, he may try to stifle it or hide it, but he won’t be able to keep that smile from appearing, or stop his face from lighting up, or hide that twinkle in his eye. Body language will always reveal what we’re really feeling. So if he’s just happy and joyful every time he sees you, then you know he’s got a bad case of missing you.
Read more: 17 Sure Signs He Doesn’t Want to Marry You
BONUS: He (honestly) tells you.
Yes, guys usually tend to mask how they really feel. They’re not usually very vocal and they may hesitate to show and tell their true emotions. But sometimes, the longing may overwhelm him, or he may realize that the heart wants what it wants… and just tell you. He’ll decide to follow his heart and lay his feelings out in the open, and just sweetly say it: I miss you.
You’ll see that he is being open and vulnerable and honest about his feelings. And hearing those words, spoken after actions that also expressed the same thing, is one of the most beautiful moments of all.
Knowing the signs he misses you can help you to be able to see just how much he cares about you and wants to be with you. Keep these in mind — being able to identify the signs he misses you will tell you just how much he wants to be part of your life! And hey, you may just find out that he’s as crazy about you as you are about him! Sweet!