A husband and wife are deemed to stick with one another despite trials because they are supposed to outlast it together. They make the best duo and the finest companion for each other for the rest of their lives. When the world seems to turn their back on you, your spouse is someone whom you could work with in the most harmonious way.
However, not everyone has the same situation. Some women suffer because they are tied to their toxic spouses and unfortunately, some don’t realize that a toxic husband will cause them to struggle in reaching their personal goals.
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And here’s why:
1. Your husband hinders you from growing.
A manipulative husband tends to lure you into a path where you would remain stagnant. Letting you stay at home, always cook for him and do the chores for him… Admit it, you wouldn’t be able to grow if you’re just staying at one place and doing nothing but the same old thing every single day — and that is draining especially for women who are fond of working and trying exciting things to spice up their career.
2. They wanted you to SOLVE all the problems.
If a toxic spouse is experiencing frustration, they most likely to expect you to solve for it… even if the problem isn’t marriage-related, and even if it’s the slightest inconvenience. They would always make you feel as if it is your fault and that it’s your responsibility to make them feel better. This cycle is quite exhausting, as you could be focusing on working on your goals but end up catering to your toxic husband.
3. You find yourself withdrawing from your family, friends and other social interaction.
Environment and relationship are the most important things to maintain. You need them to sustain positivity and gain support in your endeavor. If you find yourself drawing back from your family, friends and other social interaction because your husband is asking you to do so or trying to guilt-trip you into not spending time with him every time you are with them, then there must be a problem.
4. They are too controlling
A toxic husband tend to be controlling. They would tell you how you should spend your money, how you should spend the day, spend the weekend, who you should hang out with, what you should work on, and even down to the little things such as what to prepare for dinner or how the living room should look like. It’s pretty obvious if they control you in everything that you do then they can be a hindrance for you to achieve success because basically, they act as if they own you when in reality, you are two individuals tied in a string of vows. You are bound to spend your life together and NOT controlling each other.
5. His negative energy drags you down.
One of the factors as to why a person can’t seem to find progress is their relationship with other people. Does it give them a positive outlook in life? Or dragging them down? Everyone experiences bad days, it’s normal for a person to feel awful about something. But a spouse who poisons their partner’s high spirit because they feel terrible is unusual. Sure, misery loves company but you should never feel as if an anchor was tied around your ankle… A healthy marriage should NOT spoil one’s goal. It should be an aid to achieving success!
6. If he’s toxic with you, then he must be also toxic for your kids
Toxic husbands are never good for you! At first, they might seem like they’re fine, but after a while, you will realize that your own success is at stake. It’s not right to stay with someone who is not good for your mental health and overall well-being. But it’s also not right to teach your kids to hate their father. Even if dealing with them might be too overwhelming and frustrating, you need to open the issue with your kids and try to explain to them what works out and what doesn’t in your family. That way, they will be able to understand and they won’t cause a much bigger wound. The overall well-being of your kids must come first all the time.
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