Are you in a relationship with your girlfriend or boyfriend and thinking about breaking up with them?
I feel really sorry to hear that your relationship with this person has come to this point. However, there may be times in life when you need to make decisions that are extremely heart-wrenching and, of course, confusing. And whether it is the right time to break up with your partner or not is one of them.
I can understand you, dear. You love your significant other and want to make things work for both of you. But for some reason, you just don’t feel right to be in the relationship. Maybe you are facing the same issues, again and again. Maybe there are things that you guys cannot find a solution to. Or, maybe you want different things in life despite loving each other.
Whatever the reason is, this entire process is going to be hard, and this is especially true for you if you have been in this relationship for years. Your partner knows all your quirks and flaws, and you are so much more comfortable with them.
So the thought of starting from the beginning with someone new may seem daunting to you. And then there are each others’ friends, family, and you might be living together with each other. In short, there are tons of what-ifs that you may be thinking about.
But honey, above everything else, is the question, “are you happy in this relationship?” If not, then when to walk away from a relationship? And that is exactly where this post comes into the picture!
Signs to Walk Away From a Relationship
Here, I have discussed some signs that suggest when the right time to walk away from a relationship is. Read on.
- You Feel Lost
You know, when you are in a relationship, your partner is supposed to encourage and support you. And you do the same for them.
But hey, are things different in your relationship? Have you noticed changes in your behavior or personality that you don’t really like?
If your answer is “yes,” then, honey, I am sad to say that you are in a toxic relationship.
If your relationship were happy, then your partner would bring positive changes in you and not the contrary. Your partner would be the one to uplift your mood when you are sad, motivate you when you are feeling hopeless, and be always there by your side no matter what the situation is.
And if they are not doing any of these and have turned you into a person that even you don’t like, then it is a clear sign that it is time to bid goodbye to this relationship.
- You Live in the Past
Is it often that you find yourself reminiscing the good old days – the beginning of your relationship? And you miss those days? And you really wish to relive those days again?
Now, if you are in a happy relationship, this should not be the case in the first place! It clearly suggests that you are not happy in your relationship or the current circumstances that your relationship is in.
You know, every relationship has a beginning phase and a growth phase. In the latter phase, two people in a relationship continue enriching each other and helping each other become better people. This way, they make new happy memories every day.
But, if your present is not happy and the only happiness you get is remembering old memories of your relationships, that is not a good sign. And if this continues to happen, then sadly, your relationship may come to an end!
- You Don’t Like to be Intimate Physically
Is it often that you make love to each other? Do you get turned on seeing your partner?
If your answer to both these questions is “no,” then it is time that you give your relationship a second thought. Having a healthy sex life becomes extremely important when you are in a romantic relationship. It is one way of showing love and trust to each other and enjoying each others’ company.
Things change when you are no longer interested in making love to your partner, and you don’t feel anything down there when they are close to you, and the thought of making love makes you cringe.
And when all these happen, know that there is trouble in your relationship!
- Your Partner have a Weird Relationship with a Friend, Ex, or Anyone Else
Does your partner have some kind of an unexplainable relationship with their ex, friend, or anyone else?
Now, this is troublesome, dear!
Yes, you can be friends with anyone, be it your exes. And that does not harm your current relationship as long as you are transparent about it to your current partner. However, things can take an ugly turn when you start hiding things from your present partner. It is then that they become suspicious of you and your relationship with that other person. And they may start having trust issues as well.
If this kind of situation arises in your relationship, it is always best to talk to your partner and sort things out. Together you may think of a way to not harm your relationship in any way.
But if your partner is not willing to talk to you about this matter and sort things out, then there may be something going on between them that they don’t want you to know. And honey, each and every relationship is based on mutual love, respect, and trust. So, when any of these is missing in your relationship, it is time that you walk away.
- You Expect Your Partner to Change
Do you find your partner to be unattractive lately? Or, have your partner developed some traits that you find to be unappealing?
Well, that should not be the case in a healthy and happy relationship!
When you are in a romantic relationship with a person, you accept them the way they are – with all their beauty and flaws. And you are supposed to love them no matter how bad a personality trait they have.
After all, you fell in love with your partner for who they really are, isn’t it?
But now that you are trying to change them or want them to change some of their traits because YOU don’t like them, that is not the way it should be.
You should be proud of the person your partner really is. You should not – in any way – feel embarrassed because of their certain traits. And when that happens, know that it is time to leave that person and let them live the life they want.
- You are Attracted to Other People
Now, this is something serious!
Do you find other people than your partner to be attractive?
Well, that is totally normal. Other people CAN be attractive. And there is no harm in acknowledging that.
Did I tell you that when my husband and I go out and find someone really good-looking and hot, I let my husband know, and then we both look at them and rate their looks on a scale of one to ten?
And we find it really fun to do! This is what a normal romantic relationship should be like.
But, if you find someone sexy and then flirt with them and then gradually fantasize with them, then buddy, you guys have a serious issue in your relationship! And it would be better to walk away from your current relationship.
- You have Started Keeping Secrets from Your Partner
In several movies, you might have heard numerous times that you should marry your best friend, right?
Let me tell you, I, to some extent, believe that too.
Because, you know, your partner is the person you will spend your whole life with, of course, if you are serious about each other. And being best friends mean you share everything – no matter how good or bad it is.
It is okay not to tell EVERY detail to your partner! I understand that there can be certain things that are very trivial and you don’t want to share. But, if there is something serious that you don’t feel the need to tell your significant other, then there is a problem in your relationship.
You may feel that sharing those thoughts or things with your partner may have a negative effect on your relationship. Whatever the reason is, if you start keeping things from your partner, it suggests that you don’t trust them anymore. Also, it is a sign that you walk away.
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- You Need to Justify Your Actions
If you do something that your partner doesn’t like, you can explain it to them. But honey, things can be different when you need to justify your actions. Offering an explanation to your partner about something and having to justify your actions are not the same.
Does your partner always ask you to justify your actions?
That means things are not good, dear. So when they ask for justification, it means that you have done something that is not acceptable. And if this continues to happen every time you do something, then you need to give your relationship a second thought.
Mutual trust, understanding, and acceptance are the three pillars of any successful relationship. If your partner cannot accept you the way you are and you have to make constant efforts to fit in their lives, then however hard it is for you, it is best to walk away from that relationship.
- Your Routine Conversations have Become Difficult
Does it always happen to you that you start a conversation with your partner, but you always end up arguing with each other?
Every person has different opinions, likes, and dislikes. You don’t always have to have the same opinion as your partner. But when your routine conversations end up as full-blown conflicts, then honey, not everything is right in your relationship.
And when this keeps on happening, you start being uncomfortable around each other. This results in little to no communication at all. This, my friend, is a red alert in any relationship!
Gradually, you will drift apart, and this will end your courtship. If you don’t want to end your relationship on a bitter note, it would be better to walk away now.
- You Have Realized that Your Values and Goals Don’t Align
Before I say something on this point, let me tell you, it is completely fine if you both agree to disagree on something. And that is an essential aspect of all relationships. This means you CAN have differences.
Even the happiest couples have differences, at least at some point in their relationships. It keeps the courtship exciting, happy, and alive.
But, things are not the same if your views differ drastically on some important aspects of life, such as love, honesty, kids, monogamy, and so on. It shows a great disconnection between the two of you.
Are you guys in a long-term relationship and thinking of having a future together?
If your answer is “yes,” then know that having a different mindset on issues such as your aspirations in life and professional choices can have a huge impact on your relationship.
So, if you realize that you guys don’t match, have completely different views of life, and are not very keen to compromise, then the best thing you could do is end that relationship.
- You are in an Abusive Relationship
Is your partner abusing you?
This is something you CAN NOT let go of – no matter how long you are in that relationship! Any kind of abuse – be it verbal, emotional, mental, or physical, is a BIG NO. It doesn’t matter what kind of situation you are in. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing that can justify abuse.
You should not accept it, thinking that this is the first time that your partner has abused you and that they will not repeat that again. Don’t make the mistake of keeping quiet just because you love your partner and want to be with them forever.
Remember, once an abuser, always an abuser. If you let it go, there is no guarantee that they will not do it again. In fact, it can be more severe the next time.
If your partner hurts you, it is clear that you are in a toxic relationship. And it is time to walk away. The faster you can, the better!
When a relationship is healthy, both you and your partner will feel respected and of course, loved. But if these two things are missing in your relationship, then buddy, you are doing injustice to your own self and to each other. Understand when to walk away from a relationship without dragging the misery! Remember, true love never ends. It only grows with time.
Hey there, Martha here, a full-time mom of two, currently trying to bring a small impact in everyone’s life whom I can reach through The Queen Momma. I usually write on topics related to parenting, pregnancy and motherhood. Having gone through a few rocky relationships myself, I consider myself somewhat of an “expert” on topics related to dating and relationships.
I formerly worked at Special Needs Network Inc and BrightStar Care of Beverly Hills as a head manager. I have a passion for assisting organizations and individuals in achieving their objectives and have had the opportunity to do so throughout my professional career. At present, writing for The Queen Momma is a great addition to my professional career.