You liked someone. They had mutual feelings for you. They expressed their feelings for you, and you accepted. You were in a happy relationship. Of course, there were ups and downs like any other relationship, but you always worked it out.
Then came the day when you had serious issues and broke up.
Since then, you have been thinking about your ex. You keep revisiting those happy moments with them in your thoughts. And recently, you learned that they have someone new in their life.
Ever since you heard this, you have had thoughts such as “Are they happy in their new relationship?” and “Is their new partner more compatible with them than me?”
Well, let me tell you, breakups are heart-wrenching. But they are normal. Not all relationships last a lifetime, right? As you know, Most of them come with an expiry date.
And once you break up, it doesn’t mean you will dedicate all your time to thinking about your past relationship and ex. You have a life and should use your time to improve it.
But, if you still cannot stop worrying about your ex and you keep wondering if your ex’s new relationship is a happy one, I have talked about some clear signs your ex is unhappy in a new relationship.
Definitive Signs Your Ex is Unhappy in New Relationship
It is really important for you to heal after a breakup. This gives you mental peace and the confidence to move forward in life.
But not everyone can move on easily after they have parted ways with their ex-partner.
If you are one of them and are really eager to know if your ex is unhappy in their new relationship, read this article until the end.
I have discussed some clear signs that will make you understand it very well. You will know if they are faking this new relationship to make you jealous or if they have really found their soulmate.
Read on.
1. They Call And Text You Frequently
You have now parted ways with your ex, and they are in a new relationship. But are they still in touch with you? Do they call and text you now and then?
Well, this could mean two things.
They want to hear your voice or know your opinion on things that matter to them. Maybe they are still not over you. they still miss those long hours of talking to you on the phone and calling you so often.
But if they talk to you and say that they are in a serious relationship, then the chances are that they are not happy in their new relationship. They are just pretending here.
Because if their new relationship were happy, they would not waste their time and energy on you – their ex, right?
2. They Still Rely on You For Emotional Support
In the previous point, I talked about frequent calling and texting. Now I want to ask you, “What do they talk about when they call or text you?”
This is very important.
We all have at least someone with whom we are the most comfortable, sharing our ups and downs, our insecurities, and more. We trust them so much that we know they will never share those details with anyone else.
Does your ex share the same with you? Do they tell you things that only their partner should know? Do they confide in you? Do they drunk dial you? Do you wake up to several missed calls and texts from your ex?
If your answer is “Yes,” it could mean that your ex is not able to trust their new partner, as they are in an unhappy relationship. And you are the one that they still trust.
3. They Have Not Returned All Your Stuff
If you want to have a fresh start, leaving your past behind, you need to get rid of it first, right?
So, when you are ready to have a new relationship and put an end to your past relationship, one of the very first things that ex-couples do is return each other’s things back.
This is to make sure that there are no ties with their past relationship.
There could be a t-shirt of your ex that you loved wearing. Returning it to them after your breakup will help you in the healing process.
But if your ex still hasn’t returned your belongings, it means they want to keep the communication open. They want to come back to you if things in this new relationship don’t work out.
4. They Try to Make You Jealous With Their New Partner
This is very common between couples after a breakup. They get into a new relationship just to make their ex jealous.
You may see your ex posting tons of pictures on social media with their new partner. They may be boasting about this new person in their life.
And if they do, know that they are clearly not over you. They are doing this to make you jealous. They want you to come back to their life.
Because, if they were happy in this new relationship, they would not be so vocal about it, knowing that you are on their friend list. They would keep their relationship private, away from you.
5. They Never Fail to Check Your Social Media Updates
If you are still friends on social media, finding out more about your ex will be easy.
Tell me, do they comment on or like all your posts on social media? Do they comment on good things whenever you post a picture of yourself?
Does all your post have their reaction without fail? Has it become a pattern that no matter when and what you post, they are the first to hit a like or comment?
Then it means they are still not over you. They stalk you on social media and want you to feel their presence with their likes and comments.
This is also a sign that they are unhappy in their new relationship.
6. They Spend Less Time With Their New Partner And More Time With Their Friends
Were you with your ex-partner for years, after which you broke up?
This means that you have got a lot of mutual friends, right?
Now, have you heard anything from those friends about your ex? Have those friends told you that your ex has been spending much time with them nowadays – more than they spend time with their new partner?
Then this could mean that they are not happy in their new relationship.
I’m not saying that one can’t spend time with one’s friends if they are in a romantic relationship. But there should be a balance, right?
And if that balance is not maintained it indicates that they have issues in their relationship.
Because generally, when you are in a new relationship, you tend to spend all your time with that person, as you want to know them better and you like their presence.
7. Their New Partner Tells You to Stay Away From Them
Okay, not all guys and girls are comfortable with their partners keeping in touch with their exes.
A modern relationship expert and marriage counselor in Maryland, Emily Cook, says, “Ordinary jealousy or envy in a relationship is pretty common with retroactive jealousy. It doesn’t always create problems, but it can sometimes become an obsessive behaviour that might create problems in the future.”
So, if your ex’s new partner is jealous of you and asks you to stay away from your ex, it means they are in an insecure position of a happy relationship. It’s not good for both of them.
And even after listening to them, if your ex is still keeping in touch with you, it means there are some severe problems in their so-called paradise.
8. They Have Stopped Posting or Increased Their Posts on Social Media
There should be a balance in everything, right?
If your ex has suddenly started posting a lot on social media or has stopped posting altogether, both are signs of unhappiness in the new relationship.
And as you know them better, you can tell which one is true in your ex’s case.
Suppose your ex keeps posting details about their relationship on social media. In that case, they want to let people know that they are in a happy relationship, which they are not.
If they don’t post anything at all, they want to keep their relationship a secret until they are not convinced that they are an excellent fit for each other.
9. They Keep Finding Excuses to Meet You
If you are over your ex and want to move on in life, you will try to stay away from them, right?
But if your ex keeps calling or texting you and urges you to meet them, it’s a clear sign that they are not over you despite being in a new relationship.
They will devise unique excuses to make their request to meet you. They will deliberately insist you to meet in a place where you both used to go together before.
This indicates they are unhappy in their new relationship and are trying to mend things with you.
10. They Talk Bad About Your New Relationship
Have you moved on after your breakup and are in a new relationship now? Have you found out your ex talking wrong about your relationship?
This signifies that they have not found peace in their new relationship.
This is why they are saying things like your relationship won’t work out, your partner lacks many things compared to them, you and your partner are not compatible at all, and more.
They can’t see you happy in your new relationship, as it reminds them what your relationship with them lacked. Also, they are still not over you and want you back.
Conclusion
Breakups are not only messy but also confusing. For a specific period after your breakup, you don’t know what to do, feel, or how to take the first step to move on.
And many a time, you end up getting back with your ex.
If you still have feelings for your ex despite them being in a relationship, or you are just curious to know if your ex is happy in their new relationship, these signs your ex is unhappy in their new relationship will help.
So, after reading the signs, have you found similarities with your ex? If so, what are they?
Don’t forget to tell me in the comments!
Hi, I am Claudia, I run TheQueenMomma’s content creation team, personally focusing on topics which add joy to people’s life. You would usually see me writing on topics like Jokes, Riddles, Truth & Dare as well as Baby Names etc.
In my professional career, I have a Bachelor’s and Master’s in sociology and specialize in media and crime. Once I finished my education, I began my career working as a journalist, reporting on various topics like crime, justice and family law. Even though I valued journalism, I came to the realization that I wanted to have a more immediate impact in people’s lives as well as bring joy to them.